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Poll #888343 What limits capability?

Check everything you think you're capable of ever doing.

Writing a book
0(0.0%)
Starting a company
0(0.0%)
Buying a house
0(0.0%)
Killing someone
0(0.0%)
Becoming President of the United States
0(0.0%)
Being asked to be a guest on Oprah
0(0.0%)
Changing oil in a car
0(0.0%)
Protecting yourself if attacked
0(0.0%)
Falling asleep in a car
0(0.0%)
Listing all 50 states in 10 minutes
0(0.0%)
Eating 6 saltines in a minute
0(0.0%)
Learning a foreign language
0(0.0%)
Loving another person more than yourself
0(0.0%)
Running a marathon
0(0.0%)
Cooking a meal for 10
0(0.0%)
Help me out and tag your new year's resolutions on 43 Things with the tag "2007 resolution". It'll get added to this page. I've been thinking about how to make good goals lately... something you'd think I'd have figured out by now since I run a website about goal making, have written articles about making achievable goals, and gave a talk on it at Ignite as well... but I think that this particular problem of changing yourself and your life while being yourself in your life, is a crazy dilemma that is the heart of most of our problems. You have to blow into your own sails and pull yourself out of a pit by your bootstraps. I want to really figure it out. Is it possible to really figure things out? Or do we just talk around things all the time, sometimes making sense and sometimes not? That's how I feel often. Like I know things at most about 75%, and 25% I make up each time to fill in different gaps.

Anyway. I think this "create extraordinary problems" thing is working. I feel different and more alive than I have in a while. But it's a higher highs lower lows sort of thing. Sometimes I have moments where someone mentions something we've talked about in the past and I think to myself, "Remember when it seemed like that problem mattered?" Not that it doesn't matter now, it's just that I have much more potentially disasterous outcomes to worry about. And these potentially disasterous outcomes force me to be creative.

A talk lele  and I went to last week was all about experimentation. How, to some, experimentation is a luxury. They feel it's decadent to be able to experiment with life... it implies that all of your lower Maslovian needs are met. However, at the same time, it was mentioned that people who have their survival threatened will become vigorous experimenters when pushed to the ends of their resources. It all depends on what your experiments are tied to. Experimentation is the creative method. If you tie the creative method to luxury, you get luxurious products. If you tie experimentation to survival, you get survival products. My guess is that you'll get better outcomes when you tie experimentation to the most vital parts of your life. And that's what creating extraordinary problems is all about. Create problems that pull you outside of your safety zone, use your creativity as a life vest and force yourself into the deep waters. It's a bit like self-sabotage... tricking yourself into putting yourself into danger so that you are forced to use all of your resources to save yourself. Is it crazy? Only if you think it is. Only if you think that you don't have what it takes. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy, I guess.

I think next year, I need to start talking about different things than this. I'm tired of hearing myself say the same things, but part of it is self-pep rally, and part habit. If anyone read all of this, what do you think I should talk about instead?

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I'm starting to think about my resolutions for next year. I used to be very bad about making a resolution -- I'd just make up something a few days beforehand and maybe follow it for a week. I think the reason I'm thinking about it so early is that now that I have a list of things I'm doing, I notice when I think "oh, I should do that" about something that isn't on my list...

> self-pep rally, and part habit.

I think I've told you this before, but one of the cheapest ways that I reward myself for accomplishing something is by writing it down afterwards. I like writing, I get to brag about my accomplishment and then I have a list of the things I've accomplished next time I feel like I never do anything. Maybe you do the same?

ha, nobody even wants to be the president.

10 minutes for the 50 states? I could pull that off in >2 minutes. So much for a challenge.

okay, so I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought themselves capable of killing someone anymore.

it doesn't seem so hard.

I'm strong. I could do it.

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