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slicing the absurdities
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The first absurdity is being afraid of what you want... thinking that you don't deserve, or can't have, what you want out of life.  Or that you want the wrong thing for yourself and that if you get it you'll just be disappointed or uninterested.  This absurdity hinges on the idea that the problem is with you, not the thing you want. 

The second absurdity is thinking that what you want is too difficult to get... that you missed your chance, that it's otherwise out of reach.  The thing you want is fine, but you just don't have what it takes to get it.  Another way to state it is that you don't want it enough, that you aren't good enough for it.  This absurdity hinges on the idea that you're a greedy bastard that wants too much.  You suck.

Are there better ways to phrase these two absurdities?  Are they really the same thing?  Or should they be broken up into three absurdities instead?  (Not deserving the thing, fearing you want the wrong thing, and not wanting it enough?)

What about the absurdity of wondering if anyone's going to call you out for being unhappy.  The one where you don't necessarily go after your dreams so much as seek solace in the comfort of knowing that everyone else failed at their dreams too.

A unified theory of disappointment in life would be an interesting theory to come up with.  Other than the Buddha's because I don't like him.   He's an escapist jerk.

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Or should they be broken up into three absurdities instead? (Not deserving the thing, fearing you want the wrong thing, and not wanting it enough?)

I think they are three discrete problems. 1 and 2 especially.

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